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And so I would have entirely ignored her, had I not seen her write this frankly remarkable post RfA comment, which I have deconstructed.
Vulnerable is a very wierd term to use in regard to this process. Especially for a woman, in these times.Thank you to all of those who has devoted their time to participate in recent RfAs. I wanted to say how important this has been for me but also how stressful. The candidate’s position is very vulnerable from a number of perspectives and I wanted to talk about them.
Nobody is looking for perfection. But part of the process is about weeding out the sort of person who says things like "emotionally draining" in reference to a relatively simple question and answer session, speaking as it does to their likely inability going forward to deal with the sort of shit a Wikipedia Administrator has to deal with, up to and including very stressful situations, such as deciding how to handle real world harassment as a possible first responder.The first and probably the most emotionally draining fact is that you are being scrutinized by such a diverse community and it’s impossible to be perfect.
Make your mind up, princess. You either support candidates being subjected to scrutiny, or you want an easy ride.I fully support the idea that the community should pay careful attention to the candidate’s activity because adminship is a huge responsibility, but this doesn’t make it easier.
Again, part of the reason for the process is to weed out those people who have the strength of character to know when it is appropriate to stand back and let the community identify and resolve concerns to its satisfaction, and when a situation is serious enough what it warrants a direct clarification from you. Someone unable to know when to stay silent, and when to intervene, is unlikely to be able to offer any productive assistance to dispute resolution on Wikipedia.Especially frustrating is the fact that you can’t explain yourself or clarify things in the discussion section or on the talk page (technically you can, but there's a strong feeling it's inappropriate). Meanwhile the majority of the concerns are voiced there. Thoughts and ideas evolving in those discussions are just to observe and this is very nerve wracking as some of them are just misunderstandings or misinterpretations.
People who find the prospect of sitting back and letting RfA just do its thing to be "nerve racking", probably don't have what it takes to be a Wikipedia Administrator, period.
Jesus. Seriously girl, have you got a therapist? Because you sound quite fragile. You seem too fragile to even be editing Wikipedia, never mind being an Administrator.The only sphere of your influence is the answers to the questions, apart from that you feel quite helpless.
Lolwut? Written communication lends itself well to being clear and having the time to craft the right response. And to labour the point, one of the reasons for RfA is to weed out those candidates whio perhaps haven't realised, and haven't mastered, the not exactly very hard skill of writing unambiguously, for a global audience.It’s also worth mentioning that written communication has a number of draw backs – especially under pressure it’s hard to achieve perfect wording that would definitely be unambiguous. We all have different backgrounds, we come from different communities and countries – these things influence what we say, how we say it and what we mean.
And yet here you are, whining about your experience of a process where, in reality, you got a landslide of support and virtually no opposition? Rather than focusing on improving, your first instinct was to post your complaints.I believe opposition is important – it can show a number of perspectives which could become a departure for improvement.
Hmmm. Well, maybe, just, well, like, MAN UP?However, knowing that you can potentially be criticized for every mistake you’ve made is another challenge to take.
Worth noting that she is wise to use the word potential there, because in reality, although she had to deal with 20 questions, literally, only a tiny number of them were to do with actual incidents that people had found. The vast majority were of a generalist nature, aimed only at getting her philosophy on a particular issue.
Jesus Christ. You honestly wouldn't believe this person was talking about a question and answer session on a website for a rather unimportant internal role. She sounds ike she's talking about having experienced a serious trauma.Is has been very emotional for me and there was a point I was about to withdraw and I know I wasn’t the only one having those thoughts. Luckily, I had people who supported me.
No no no. I think your point was to try and argue that even though the issues were all yours, the community still needs to make adjustments, so that exceedingly fragile people like yourself can cope.Right now, when the RfA is over, everything doesn’t look that bad, but that’s my exact point. I am grateful to be a part of this community. My little wish would be to make RfA process less stressful as many people just might not have the emotional resilience and access to emotional support to deal with it.
Kindest regards, Less Unless (talk) 19:48, 26 May 2021 (UTC)
I mean, come on. There's trying to make the process feel a little less like a rectal exam and a little more reflective of the pissant nature of the nominal reward for passing, and then there's just pandering to entirely unsuitable candidates.
I have serious doubts this person would have passed, let alone sailed through, if the necessary changes were made to RfA such that it might be possible to actually determine the actual strength of character and emotional fragility of the candidate.
For it cannot be in any doubt, based on that outpouring, that this person is not going to be much use to the Wikipedia community, other than perhaps as, ironically, a little heard and little noticed Secretary type. The role of Admin having originally seen as mere janitorial work, and the fact that quickly proved to be a lie, and Adminship is more correctly seen as a very powerful status that you can hold indefinitely, being the reason RfA became such a trial.
And as well know, even those Admins who think all they are doing is uncontroversial paperwork, are at some point or another, going to find themselves in a situation where being able to handle stress, as well as do the basics like communicate effectively, will be what prevents them becoming just another Kudpung.
If Wikipedia governance worked, this statement could be used as evidence to nullify and perhaps re-run her application, so she can hopefully be asked some serious questions about why it is she apparently gets so worked up over relatively trivial matters.
Because it honestly has to ba asked now, has this woman already got a seriously unhealthy relationship with Wikipedia? In that in all honesty, complete disengagement, rather than more responsibility, might be the wisest and healthiest thing for her to do.
Too late for them now. Last time I saw this level of unreality, this level of imbalance, it was from Lourdes, and I think everyone agrees it was a mistake to promote her.
Not to be sexist, but if it's truly a defining trait of women to be more emotional and less resilient to stress, to the point they can genuinely get upset over a nothing burger like RfA, both in terms of what actually happened and what it was all about, the way this woman has, then shit, maybe it's just a truism, Wikipedia is just not for girls.
I am not totally down with that as my conclusion, because I am blessed to know many capable women who would be disgusted to be associated with such fragile creatures. And yet neither are they power crazed psycho ogres like Bishonen or rude incompetent loner activist freaks like Jess Wade (admittedly not a Admin, but in her warped mind, she genuinely thinks the only reason she isn't, is because the men wouldn't let her be one).
With the exception of the one old bat down the street, and that's why she's been ostracized to planet go fuck yourself. Unfortunately for Wikipedians, they have no such luxury. They have to live with being subjects of Queen Bishonen, and they have to live with being prevented from asking Jess Wade why she is such a monumental screwup, someone still incapable of even a basic thing like proper sourcing, in case she starts crying or some shit.